Are you getting a puppy for your children?

Although I grew up with dogs, it wasn’t until I had children and stopped working that we got a family dog. It was my daughter who was desperate to have one, and when the time seemed right, we got a puppy labrador and called her Bonnie.

It was a most magical time for the children to have a puppy but it was not without its challenges. I remember when the children would sit in a chair with their legs dangling, it would be regarded by the puppy as fun to bite their swinging toes. Other than that, I can’t remember any big problems. We were lucky to have a placid companion dog; the children were at an age when they would listen; and were taught how to behave with their puppy and be safe. We had household rules which restricted the puppy’s free access to the children.

Are you getting a family dog?

If you are getting a puppy to join your family and you have young children, it is important that they do not regard the puppy as a toy. Puppies bite during teething, jump when excited, and chew household items including children’s toys, books and shoes, if left lying around.

Many accidents happen not because either the child or the dog is “naughty,” but because situations are not properly managed. A frightened puppy may nip, while an overexcited child may unintentionally hurt or scare the dog. Supervision and strategies for safety are essential in homes with young children.

The importance of training

Parents can begin training the puppy basic commands such as “sit,” “come,” and “leave it,” from the start and this will help establish communication and safety. Consistent, positive reinforcement training builds trust and helps the puppy learn how to behave calmly around children.

Equally important is teaching children how to interact respectfully with the puppy. Children should learn:

• Not to pull ears, tails, or fur

• Not to disturb the puppy while eating or sleeping

• To speak calmly and avoid sudden chasing games

• To recognise signs that the puppy is tired, anxious, or uncomfortable

Training is not only for the dog — it is for the whole family. When everyone follows the same rules and routines, the puppy feels more secure and learns more quickly.

Supervision is essential

No matter how gentle a dog may seem, young children and puppies should never be left together unsupervised. Adults play a vital role in guiding interactions and stepping in before situations become stressful.

Supervision allows parents to:

• Prevent rough play

• Reward calm behaviour

• Teach children appropriate handling

• Protect the puppy from becoming overwhelmed

Creating safe spaces is also important. Puppies should have a quiet area, such as a crate or bed, where they can rest undisturbed. Children need to understand that this space belongs to the dog and should always be respected.

Building a lifelong bond

With patience and guidance, the connection between a child and a dog can become incredibly special. Many families discover that as the puppy grows, so does the bond of trust and affection. Children often talk to their dogs, and their dog becomes a comfort and companion.

The strongest relationships are built on kindness, consistency, and respect. A well-trained dog and well-informed children create a safer and happier environment for everyone involved.

Raising a puppy alongside young children requires time, commitment, and careful supervision, but the rewards can be extraordinary. When families invest in proper training and thoughtful guidance, they are not simply raising a pet — they are nurturing a lifelong friendship that can enrich the lives of both the dog and the children for many years to come.

We were blessed to have had Bonnie for 16.5 years. She was the most wonderful family dog we could have possibly wished for.